Some of us stay much longer in a toxic relationship than anybody with half a brain should. But for some reason, we just keep going back for more, long after most others would have walked out the door.
Maybe we have a twisted sense of love. Maybe through circumstances of our choosing, we linger out of some misguided sense of duty.
The answer is not simple. For whatever reason, our partner is our Kryptonite.
Does Kryptonite imply a weakness or an allergic reaction? There’s no clear answer to that question. All we know is that even Superman was brought to his knees by the green rock.
The Psychology of Toxicity
If you are in an unhealthy relationship and you keep repeating the same behaviors, thinking things will get better… guess what… you are being exposed to Kryptonite.
Yep, that person who you just can’t seem to shake; who you know is not good for you; who makes you feel worthless, they are your Kryptonite.
Call it toxic, weakness, or allergy, they are something you need to avoid like the plague and never come in contact with again.
For whatever reason, you are susceptible to their ‘powers.’
Don’t blame the Kryptonite for being Kryptonite. It is what it is. If you are around them, you will be undone. GET AWAY from them. Lessons hard-won.
We can come up with all kinds of reasons to continue in a relationship. We think we can’t live without that person. We think they are the one. If you are hurting and miserable… something needs to change. It’s you.
The Addictive Nature of Toxic Relationships
Let’s talk about toxic relationships here. You know the kind: the one that makes you crazy, keeps you confused, and makes you hate yourself.
When someone is your Kryptonite, it is like an addiction. If you are not on down the road of separation from that person, you will crash and burn. You think you can’t live without them…that’s how addiction destroys.
Ask any addict who has been clean for a period of time and they will tell you, they cannot even use one time. Addiction or a toxic relationship…