8 Keys: Unlocking a Better Life



“When I was a child, I spoke and thought and reasoned as a child. But when I grew up, I put away childish things.” 1 Corinthians 13:11

That’s how we start. Our innocence will take us to places that as adults we dare not tread. Our patterns of thoughts and behaviors are learned early in life.

No one hands us the key to unlock the door to a perfect life. We have to figure it out on our own. Please, say it ain’t so…

My life got off to a rocky start. That 18-year-old me played havoc with my life. Yep, she did some pretty stupid things and the 40-year-old me had to pay dearly. My life has been lived upside down and sideways. It has been exhausting and exhilarating.

I’m in the boat with good company. Unfortunately, many people find themselves in this same situation. It’s a scary thought but, oh so true.

It’s the growing up and learning to think more maturely that for some of us seems to come almost too late. Early patterns of behavior and coping are hard to ditch. They seem to become hard-wired.

Becoming aware that these unproductive coping skills or thinking patterns, becomes our catalyst to make changes if we want a better life. Awareness is everything; without it, we crash and burn.

My failures have been enormous, but the successes have also been overwhelming. I live with the consequences of the younger me everyday. Because of that fact, my life will always have to be lived with careful calculation. Through awareness, I have learned to live deliberately.

Have you ever tried to change something about yourself that you knew was not good for you? Easy, peasy, right? Nope, not in a million years. It’s hard work. If you never try, never commit to the change, you are stuck in a vicious cycle.

There are basic choices that are usually made early in life: career, marriage, and children. Crazy, isn’t it? The Young You choses your career path; your mate; if and when you will have children. Does anyone wonder why the divorce rate is so high… let alone all the other social problems we have?




RB is a retired psychotherapist, storyteller, genealogists and lover of family.